"Will you love me in the morning?"

This is one of the key lines from the movie "Click" where Kate Beckinsale wrote the question on a piece of napkin for Adam Sandler after he tried to pick her up at the bar.

I cried every time I watch the movie (I've watched it 3 times), though it's not due to this particular line, if you haven't watch it, I do suggest you to, it's quite a nice lighthearted movie =)

Today's post was inspired by this thoughtcatalog article; Maybe Don't Kiss Me

One would often see the sentence being uttered in the context preceding a one-night stand, often romanticized by social media, but I think the sentence holds meaning beyond just passion that last a night; it could open a world of questions of what people will do when the alcohol wears off, the bright lights dim and 3am loneliness disappears like it never existed.

In this amazing world where we are constantly bombarded by different and various stimulations every single moment, we start to learn to feel guilty when we don't respond to each and everyone of it. It's a personal conflict of my own, and I think this article; The Long Arc of Commitment describes pretty well how we are often find ourselves letting go of a core value for something that is more immediate, more accessible where we don't have to "strain to feel its aliveness".

Though I'm speaking in the context of relationships, particularly romantic relationships, I think it's applicable to all kinds of relationships. When it comes down to it, connection with people are often the greatest risk to take - and perhaps has the greatest return. It is downright letting yourself be vulnerable to the influence of another person(s), which can be extremely intimidating if you have been hogging the driver's seat for so long. And sometimes, we continue hogging this seat with more immediate stimulation; material possessions, advancement in career, fun, etc. While there's nothing wrong with seeking pleasure or what you want in life, asking yourself what is the core you hold on to may give you insight on what is key to your life, but just not "felt" strongly the current moment.

I don't only hope for commitment, I expect commitment. I welcome flexibility but I cannot agree with running away all the time; after a while, escape routes become stale and you just find yourself in the same spot you try to disappear from all this time - nope, it's still there. While there's the notion that one should not have expectations, one of the key principle in my life is integrity which I correlate with commitment; to stick to one's guns.

Of course, life changes, all.the.time. And no one can ever be so damn sure that anything will turn out as they intend to.

But when it comes to forced choices, the spanking reality of the morning, with its temptations, with its challenges,  what will you do?

Will you dare to love me in the morning?