Sunday, December 11, 2011

Smell of Malaysia

Today, smell of Malaysia is in the form of a 3-in-1 Old Town Coffee sachet; the smell of home.

Recently I am reminded of how expectations can make a person so dissatisfied with life, not necessary unhappy, just dissatisfied, because we're left with wanting more.

At the same time, there's the argument that if you don't expect stuff, there's no striving to work towards making things better.

So how now brown cow?

Life equations are not the most solvable, and there's not scientific calculator, neither will Google or SIRI give a satisfying answer. haha.

Guy doesn't call Girl all the time, and instead falls asleep.
Girl gets annoyed but she doesn't know that he's tired from working and is trying to conserve energy so that when they actually talk, he can pay attention.

Girl calls Guy more times than likes.
Guy gets annoyed but he doesn't realise she just wants to hear his voice because it has been a horrible day at work, and that she's hoping to feel some security.

It's debatable. Guy can try to practice sleeping less, Girl can practice dealing with problems in ways other than voicing it out.
But that's how Guy has always been, he needs a lot of rest and that's how Girl has always been, she really likes to share.

Our expectations shape how we look at things.
Falling in love with an emotional guy can be so romantic, 6 months later, bloody hell he's so clingy ugh!
Falling in love with a spontaneous girl is so fun, 6 months later, bugger where she get all the energy?
Falling in love with a guy who is not clingy is so much freedom yay, 6 months later, omg he never cares!
Falling in love with a girl who is analytical is so attractive with those intelligent conversations, 6 months later, why on earth you always think so much?

6 months is just a number that popped in my head, no evidence that the above has to happen after 6 months.

Because our expectations change, and we may not even realise that. The lil things that were so attractive suddenly annoy us most. Do we then back down with our expectations or work towards changing the person?
We're not unhappy, probably still kiss and make out, but boy oh boy are we so often dissatisfied and wonder if this can actually work out because if not, we're losing, and it's not fair.

I don't know how expectations work out at the end of the day, whether it kills or fertilize, but I do know that perspective taking helps a lot in dealing with stuff like this.
It's not easy, of course it will be tiring, but maybe in the long run, it will be more worth it, whether in helping the relationship or even in helping yourself to grow, to learn how to love people in general.

Not planning on being love guru, just thought that it would be nice to remind ourselves to walk a mile in someone's moccasins =)

P.S: Just for jokes, you know how girls are (usually) awesome at wearing heels and flats but guys can only wear flats (usually =P)?
Maybe that's why guys find it harder to empathize - cause they have to "walk a mile in the girl's heels" while girls just have to "walk a mile in his Converse shoes" which is much easier. HAHAHAHAH.

Monday, December 5, 2011

Biscotti in the Oven

Yes, there's a not-very-successful biscotti baking in my oven. First attempt to make crumb biscotti, which is basically using leftover cake to make biscotti - recipe here.
Good news is, I still have another leftover cake, so another baking session some time this week. Bwahahahaha.

The week has been mentally challenging and this boggles me quite a bit because I should have less to do in UK compared to Malaysia.
Malaysia = Working + Study + Extra Curricular
UK = Domestic work + Study
And I have less study hours in UK, seriously am trying to figure out why I'm much more stressed here than back home.
For goodness sake, I spent 7 hours straight in the library doing assignment, and I've NEVER had to do that all 5 years of studying. And I never felt so much like a student before - sandwiches + study + sleep.

Guess this is all part of the transition process? I sure hope it is, because I don't think I can take that much more stress.
Though the bright side is that it's much safer to walk around here, so if I get cabin fever, I just need to head out, somewhere, anywhere.

Can't say that UK hasn't been amazing to me though, I've learnt a lot, done a lot and seen a lot.
But I guess there's no place like home.

I was intending to write my perception of an inspirational post, but this is as much inspiration I have now.

Dinner time!

Oh, and here's an awesome video:


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